Recipe for a Healthy Relationship

I'd like to share something about relationship and how to make it stay healthy without so much effort from both parties.

First off, it is important to ask yourself what you consider a real relationship to be. You need to understand what your needs and desires are from another person, and what you are willing to give them. This way, you can see early in your first dates, if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and if the other person feels the same of course (both sides count).
[So true, it's not like everyday you came across a person and find out you both love each other on a first glance or through physical appearance and like your willing to spend the rest of your life drooling over him/her, But you must feel the need of being loved and love by someone who also loves you.]

Once you have decided to have an official relationship, you both need to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally? What do you admire about his or her personality? This will help not taking the other for granted, which can often happen after two people have been together for a long time. This does not mean the love is fading, but it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be solved when both people are willing to make the time and effort.

Everyone is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so never expect a person to always see things your way. However, it is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish to avoid frequent arguments. While seeing each other on a daily basis seems wonderful and healthy to some people, others may feel smothered and need space to have some time alone. Or if sex is on the top of your list, but is not on your partners, you might want to consider that, unless you do not mind waiting or taking care of yourself once in a while…depending on how long, you have to wait!

Patience is one of the main keys to a healthy relationship. There are times when our partner will not respond in a way in which is pleasing to us, but this does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always an unhealthy step to take because it shows your partner that they are not entitled to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you automatically assume the worst of them. Give your partner some time and let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No matter what the situation may be, patience is golden in a relationship, unless your partner never wants to discuss matters with you (which would mean you need counseling or talking things out while listening to both parties or leave the relationship). The key there is to talk to that person with an open mind and think about your relationship and the respect for each other's decision.

Honesty is also at the top of everyone’s list when it comes to what people want out of a relationship. A person needs to know that they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They need to know that they can at least rely on their loving partner to tell them the truth, no matter what. Being human means NOT being perfect, which means we will make mistakes. Now, we should not let that fact lead us to making mistakes we already know are wrong ahead of time. If your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly make mistakes, it shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care for the other. This is unhealthy for the relationship. What is healthy however, is realizing that the mistake you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know that what they did was wrong and they need to feel the sympathy for what they did. Once you or partner have realized this, you can then figure out a way of how you will confess your wrong doings to the other. The best way is to talk to him/her and settle things out before it could go on a wrong way and get things out of hand.

Being accepted is a requirement in all relationships. No one desires to be with someone who judges them and rejects them for who they are or certain traits of their personalities. That is the beauty of being individuals. We are entitled to our own decisions, hobbies, goals, etc. When some one truly loves you, they love the whole package you come in, which means the physical you, the emotional you and the dreams and hobbies that come along with you. The person you choose to be with should support your dreams and respect your hobbies and vice versa.

Kindness and thoughtfulness are both equally important in a healthy relationship. Your partner needs to be considerate of your feelings and treat you with care and kindness, as if you were a sweet delicate rose. He or she does not need to attend you like a babysitter, but should be there for you when you need him or her, or when you do not need them, but just because you want them. They should just want to be with you as well. The point of a relationship is not depending on each other for our self- health, but being a part of the others life. You should be responsible for your own happiness and esteem, not your partner.

So remember, a healthy relationship is when you and your partner can be yourselves, be honest with each other, be patient, accept one another, be kind and remembering to be thoughtful. With an open and caring relationship like this, your love is sure to grow and grow like beautiful trees do, because they receive the proper care from the sun and the rest of nature. Our partner is our sun and water, as we are to them. Together, you can keep your relationship happy and healthy.

My special vacation getaway

hmm.. yup so special.. wanna know why?
hmmm.. my lola owned a resort sa samal and it's a big one nakapunta na ako twice though naga stay lang ako sa isang resto were marami ang food at libre.. Though di mahilig masyado sa beach tong mga uncle ko so better stay inside the house ang drama nila, *sigh.. sabihin nyo na wala kayong plano itreat kami.. T_T *sigh.. ang malas nga naman oh kung may uncle ka na ubod ng kuripot.. baka maudlot pa ang pinakamimithi mong pangarap.. Plano ng uncle ko na isama ako next week sa cebu.. I hope so..

hmm... may early flight sila bukas.. di ako sama.. may work kasi ako.. T__T so mean!!!

I Shall be telling this with a Sigh

THE ROAD NOT TAKEN

By: Robert Frost


Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both;
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;


Then took the other, as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,



And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.



I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

One of my favorite poem from Robert frost way back in highschool, i really adore his works, a must read. Even his famous line were quite impressive, let me rephrased it.. WAY BEYOND IMPRESSIVE, though i also like Edgar Allan Poe and his detective crime stories, i loved them both!!! a real poet and an essayist. And speaking of Robert Frost, i have here some of his famous qoutes which i'd like to share with you guys, hope you like and please drop some comments.

-> "Half of the world is composed of people who have something to say and can't, and the other half who have something to say and keep on saying it." [my favorite]

-> "In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on."

[hai hai hai!]

-> "I'm not confused. I'm just well mixed." [naigo ko]

I'm blogging not for the sake of having one but for telling people how lovely life is, that i valued each day of my life and it's worth telling for. Stories of which someday i'll tell my future kids and my future great grandchildren. [wow~!! tiguwang nako ana na panahuna, bungol-bungol na.] I'm feeling a bit tired, nothing special happened though for some reason i feel so special. OP CHORS!! malapit na b-day e. [You're thinking too much. teaser momo!!!]

ja matta!!!

[RANT: nothing .. maybe later.]

[RAVE: Day Off tomorrow~!!! and i'm so happy today.. wanna know why?]

Just Thinking...

For these past few months of wandering what could have been if i didn't stop thinking about that certain feeling of craving from a certain thing or perhaps a certain food? yup~!! i've been thinking about this food not a person, mind you. That food really gives me that kick the moment it slips right through my tongue. And of course one of those mouth dripping food i've been thinking and been wanting to dig my drooling face in is the MISO RAMEN, i just can't get enough of it~!! but it cost around 200 pesos T_T [ouch!]. Also i really wanted to buy "TENSHIN-DON", again, it cost around 200 pesos T___T. [ouch ouch] but it's worthed.

[JUST THINKING what could have been if i have more money than the usual?]
-> then i could buy two orders.. miso ramen and tenshin-don

[BEEN THINKING what if... ]
-> not-a-food-related-thought.

Good bye days / Sayonara no Hibi

At first i think it was better to wait a little and hold onto things you'll never know where it's taking you, but i was wrong. Those words (Kotoba) that left a scar in my heart will forever remain as the most unbearable pain that cuts through my brain. You'll never know how or when will it end and how it all started. All I know, is that after all those sleepless nights and all the crying has finally come to an end. There's only one person who knows what i've been through.

GOODBYE DAYS by Yui
romaji

Dakara ima ai ni yuku sou kimetan da
Poketto no kono kyoku wo kimi ni kikasetai
Sotto voryuumu wo agete tashikamete mita yo

Oh good-bye days
Ima kawaru ki ga suru
Kinou made ni so long
Kakko yokunai yasashisa ga soba ni aru kara
la la la la la (love)~With you

Katahou no iyafon wo kimi ni watasu
Yukkuri to nagarekomu kono shunkan

Umaku ai sete imasu ka?
Tama ni mayou kedo
Oh good-bye days
Ima kawarihajimeta mune no oku alright
Kakko yokunai yasashisa ga soba ni aru kara
la la la la la (love)~With you

Dekireba kanashii
omoi nante shitakunai
Demo yatte kuru desho?
Sono toki egao deYeah hello! My friend nante
sa Ieta nara ii noni...

Onaji uta wo kuchizusamu toki
Soba ni ite I wish
Kakko yokunai yasashisa ni aete yokatta yo

...Good-bye days

GOODBYE DAYS in ENGLISH

So I’ll go to you now, I’ve made up my mind
I want to play you the song in my pocket

I quietly turned up the volume to make sure

Oh good-bye days
I feel like things are changing now
So long yesterday and before
I have a clumsy tenderness by my side
~With you

pass you one earphone
And in that moment, it plays slowly

am I loving you right? Sometimes I get confused

Oh good-bye days
Now what’s in my heart has begun to change, alright
I have a clumsy tenderness by my side
~With you

I don’t want to have sad thoughts if I can help it
But they’re bound to come, right?
When they do, I’ll smile and say
Yeah hello! I hope I can call you
My friend...

When we sing the same song
Be by my side, I wish
I’m glad I found that clumsy tenderness

...Good-bye days

[Just too late to take some actions and too tired of telling how much it hurts.]

I feel loved and Love. random words

My heart is about to burst, It's been a while since i had this much fun. you love who you love, what's wrong with that?
If we were in love with each other, I't doesn't matter if people laugh at us. Direct all your feelings towards me, and smile like you always do. What so wrong about loving him when it feels so right?. I need you to be with me.

Gokusen 2

GOKUSEN 2 DRAMA SERIES CAST: MUST WATCH!! a tear-jerker jdorama

NAKAMA Yukie as YAMAGUCHI Kumiko

UTSUI Ken as KURODA Ryuuichiro

KANEKO Ken as ASAKURA Tetsu

UCHIYAMA Shinji as TATSUKAWA Minoru

WAKI Tomohiro as KUMA TERUO Kumai

NAMASE Katsuhisa as SAWATARI Goro
KAMENASHI Kazuya (KAT-TUN) as ODAGIRI Ryu

AKANISHI Jin (KAT-TUN) as YABUKI Hayato

HAYAMI Mokomichi as TSUCHIYA Hikaru

KOIKE Teppei as TAKEDA Keita

KOIDE Keisuke as HYUUGA Kosuke
SAKI Toshiya as INUZAKA Taichi

AZUMA Mikihisa as BABA Seiga

Otoha as HAKUCHO Hitomi

MOTO Fuyuki as KAMEYAMA Takashi

Magii as INOMATA Shinji

IKEDA Yukiko as WANIBUCHI Sayuri

INOUE Jun as KUROKAWA Ginji

ANAN Kenji as WAKAMATSU Kozo

TANIHARA Shosuke as KYUUJOU Takuma

For the record, pinaiyak talaga ako watching this show, ang sarap ulit-ulitin, salamat kay shoti at pinahiram niya sa akin cd niya.. Domo raigatou denis-kun.. hontou ni kawaii!!!!!!!!!

Japanese Classes

weeeeeee~!!!! one week and 5 days to go.. Jap class ko na, weeee~!!! can't wait to introduce myself in japanese and speak japanese for real. kyaaa~!!!.... GO MOMO!!! you can do IT!!!.

[cheering for myself]

[sad for some reason]

After series of working...

Work, a physical or mental effort or activity directed toward the production or accomplishment of something or a trade, profession, or other means of livelihood. Work Work Work, I’ve been so uber busy since January for my main goal is to save money for my tuition fees. I have worked for about 7 months now, and for seven months I’m telling you this, I’ve been through a LOT, and it keeps getting worse. Worse, from the fact that you have to deal with these meddling kids everyday that were about to throw you off the hook. Oh my, it’s really hard dealing with them, T_T if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be quitting my job. Quitting??? ME??? QUITTING??? Yup, you’ve heard it, and I really mean it. I’M QUITTING MY JOB.

I’m already done understanding these narrow minded people, rather crab mantled people, well, not all. Just those butt head kids. Well, for the record, a few of them stole eight pieces of headphones, a series of confrontations, not paying enough, and last but not the least, insulting your dignity. Now, isn’t that really annoying to have them by your side 24 hours and 7 days a week. GOD! Have they left their manners outside the streets? Or does their school teach them to be like that? Or does their parents even know what their doing? Such unethical actions and poor parents, pasalamat sila at pina blater lang sila ng uncle ko, and to think nakatanggap sila ng pagkahaba-habang sermon courtesy of my dad and my uncle, tapos hanggang ngayon ganun pa rin sila. HANGIN BA LAMAN NG MGA UTAK NILA AT KAHIT KONTING BAGAY DI MAN LANG NILA MAITATAK SA KANILANG KOKOTE?.

Nakakahiya na nga yung alam nila na sila pa ang nag nakaw pero hanggang ngayon ganun pa rin sila. Di ko rin maintindihan ang uncle ko kung bakit di pa niya pinakulong ang mga batang yun, Sana man lang kinausap niya mga magulang ng mga batang yon para matauhan at maturuan ng leksyon. Or better yet, kung wala siguro akong pakialam sa mga buhay ng batang to, baka mapakiusapan kong ipapatay sila sa DDS kasi totally addict rin tong mga to. Pero masama yun, at wala na akong magawa, nangyari na e. Pangalawa, may internet café bang napakainit, isipin nyo na lang ang ibinubugang mainit na hangin na nagmumula sa computer, ang medyong maamoy na costumer, dagdag pa ang di gumaganang aircon na syang naging dahilan ng ala global warming sa pinagtatrabahuan ko na sya ring naging dahilan ng paglabas ng kung anu-anong uri sakit meron ako ngayon.

Hindi ko naman sinasabi na hindi ko mahal ang trabahong ito, cyempre mahal ko, ang kaso lang di ko naman kailangan pahirapan pa ang sarili ko nang matagal kong alam kong inaargabyado na ako sa trabahong ito, di naman ako mapili, ang sa akin lang makuha naman nilang rumespeto gaya ng pag respeto ko sa kanila as a costumer.

Sunday na pala ngayon?

Akala ko talaga friday ngayon so i had to do all those stuffs kanina like prepare prepare and prepare kasi naisip ko rin na saturday bukas... Lukaret na ata ako, kung anu-ano na ang pumapasok sa isipin ko, kulang kasi sa tulog e. Buti na lang, may gamot na laging umaaalalay sa akin even though di ko alam kung ano ang sakit ko. Umalis ako ng bahay mga 9am then hanggang ngayon nasa trabaho pa rin ako,nakaharap sa pc.

Tsaka off ko ngayon!!! since ngayon na alam kong sunday talaga ngayon, kailangan kong magsimba kasama pamilya ko or my mom, or yung kapatid ko, then dadaan ako sa bahay ng pinsan ko para kukunin ko yung laptop ng uncle ko, then pupunta ng g-mall para bumili ng japanese corn!! nasasarapan talaga ako tsaka ang bango!!! may butter at cheese, ang oumunta ng memorial to visit my dearest lolo and lola.. (miss ko na kayo)

hanggang dito na lang muna, medyo kailangan ko munang makapagpahinga para mamaya, mahirap na aantukin sa pagsamba...

RAMEN!!! and some other Japanese stuffs.

HALF TIME

APRIL 12, 2007, thursday, 12pm, nasa taxi pa ako habang tinatawagan ako ni jayjay sa cellphone ni shoti, nagmamadali kong sinagot ang tawag, sa mga oras na yun, nasa harapan na ako ng ateneo, traffic kasi e, nag re-route pa kasi sa dahilang nasira ang bankerohan bridge. Unang mukhang sumambulat sa akin ay ang mukha ni benjie na nakaupo sa gazebo kasama si haydara, slow motion kong nilakad papunta kina haydara at dali-dali kong hinagkan siya, then may boses na tumawag sa may bandang kaliwa ko. Boses ni jayjay, then pinuntahan ko agad sila, shock na shock si shoti sa haircut ko, (sino ba namang hindi ano!), then na meet ko si anito/kimberly, isang fellow anime afficionado rin, natatawa nga ako sa mga sinasabi ni shoti e... "momo.. JAPANESE AIR!!!" habang pinapakita ang isang bagay na may lamang hangin na matatagpuan sa mga boxes para i-fill ang space ng lalagyan. Sa mga oras na yun wala pa si rhet, so di na nakakapagtaka...

Off we go papuntang ramen tei (tama ba jay?) malapit sa venue, sakay ng taxi habang pinag-uusapan namin si teppei. pagkapasok palang namin sa loob, bumungad na sa amin ang mga negosyanteng Hapon na kumakain ng ramen kasama ng may-ari ng kakainan namin, umupo kami sa likuran nila, may lumapit sa amin na babae na binigyan kami ng menu at kinuha mga orders namin, lahat kami umorder ng shoyu ramen, habang silang dalawa ni shoti at anito umorder ng gyoza, kami ni anito mango juice at nakalimutan ko yung drinks na inorder ni shoti. Tumatawa kaming pinag-uusapan ang "Fun with Akatsuki" (dapat manood ka!! nakakatawa sobra! ewan ko na ka lang sayo kung di ka makarelate), habang si shoti gustong gustong kausapin ang may-ari ngunit nahihiya pa, then after some few minutes, dumating na order namin, and it's to eat!! wee~!!! ang sarapa sarap.. sa kalagit-naan pa lang ng topic namin, biglang nag ring ang telepono ni shoti, tumatawag pala si rhet, sabi ni shoti " I am not gonna answer it" then sumang-ayon rin kaming dalawa ni anito, then walang choice si jayjay, so xa na yung sumagot, nagtatanong si rhet kung saan na raw kami, kasi kakagising lang daw niya.. *sigh.. haaaaaay, naku rhet..

Fast Forward.. at last.. patapos na kaming kumain ng ramen at gyoza ng biglang dumating si rhet ala grand entrance, ahehehe.. so sa mga oras na yun, ubos na ramen namin, lumapit na naman yung babae sa amin to take rhet's order, same rin pala sa amin, yung shoyu ramen din yung inorder nya. Then we talked and talked and laugh a lot dun sa ramen-tei.. Very hospitable yung may-ari ng restaurant at maalaga sa costumer, then nagbayad na kami halos malaki-laki rin ang binayad namin, kasi yung shoyu ramen cost around 130pesos then yung gyoza 80pesos then yung drinks mga 35pesos... after some few minutes, nagpalipas muna kami ng ilang oras, then pinag-usapan namin ni rhet yung napagplanuhan namin na maghanap ng trabaho at ako naman maghahanap ng mapapasukang paaralan. Before kami umalis sa ramen-tei.. nagpasalamat muna kami, last akong lumabas e, pero bago ako lumbas dapat magpasalamat ka muna, i bow sa may-ari then thank him for the delicious meal, take note, in japanese pa, kyaaaa, never really thought na kakausapin nya ako in japanese, then he asked kung hapon ba raw ako, ang sabi ko naman half-japanese at half filipino then palabas na ako, bow pa rin ng bow, sakit sa likod infairness... then shoti got jealous.. ahihihihih.. kasi nakausap ko yung may ari, alam ko namang gustong gusto niya kausapin yung may-ari e, di nya lang nagawa.

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i despise these kind of people... so immature yet so unethical. MIND YOUR ATTITUDE!! work on it! and i how i wished someday you'll get a chance to meet someone who's better than you. And i hope you won't get humiliated.

GOODLUCK!

shit do happens

NOTE: INIT UG ULO ANG AUTHOR:

Ambot!!! sakit kaayo ba.. sakit na jud.. sakit na kaayo akong lalamunan, makalagot pud nang cge ug pangutana tapos kabalo na gani na naay sakit ang tao pangutan-on pa jud ta.. sus oie!! common sense na lang gud gamita ang sintido komon. kung dili mu-on ang pc, di pinduta ang ON tiguwang naman unta.. lisod bana spellingon na kasayon ra ana. Naa pud nang bungol na tao, makabwisit lang, gipadak-an na gani ang tingog nimo, nang hubag na ang tonsil nimo, BUNGOL ra gihapon, UNSA MANA!!! gwapa ra ba unta. . . BWISIT PUD NANG PABUNGOL BUNGOL!!! BWISIT ambot na lang!!! kaamayo na lang nimo duklon no. Tapos kanang kalit kalit lang ug kasuko na wala tay gihimo na dautan, BUANG cguro ka!!! ayaw pang damay damay kay wala baya ka gihilabtan, basi ka!!! ka lami na la ng jud mag wild... @#$%^&*())))*&%^&&^%#$%^#$#@$@$%#^%$*&%^*&^)(*)(&*(^E$$%#$@$@%$^&%*^*^*^O^&(*^*&%^$%#$#

Why are you acting so strange?

True. I've been acting so strange lately, creating more conflicts than ever. Also you. I dunno. maybe, things are bound to change for the both of us and i hope it's for the better.

I feel pain, yes.. i do feel pain.

A frantic drive back to civilization makes my stomach churn a bit that makes me wants to vomit every time we made a quick pit stop down the terminal. Walking halfway the hallway of Davao Medical Hospital gives me the horror as I see so many in-line patients waiting for their turn to be checked by some doctors. As for me, I’m feeling a bit nauseated by the smell of some spilled like medicine. I played through my mom’s mobile phone, to let the boredom passed me as I was waiting for my turn. After some few hours of deadly waiting, my name was called and I entered a room full of patients to be checked for dialysis, some were ready for the operation for his/her goiter others came from different barrios and cities just to get their free cheap check-up for their illnesses.

Then the nurse asked me to roll up my sleeves to check my blood pressure, it was 100/60, normal. Then fast forward, I felt so much pain as the doctor checked my eyes for crystal like dots present in both eyes and had it examined for some 2 hours of deadly pain. The doctor had inserted a small lens-like stethoscope with a small gel on both eyes. It was really painful, my tears were gushing straight on my eyes as the doctor continued to check up on it.

I was really damn crying!!! [sakit kaya!!! Ikaw daw be, murag gilugit imong mata, laliman ka ana!!!]

I Feel so Sick

I really feel sick today, I always puke every time I smell something bad and this has been going on for some couple of weeks. OH my! There must be something happening inside of me, and damn I had a couple of small like patches at my back it’s some sort of like in pinkish color, a bit itchy .. damn itchy!! And I also had this eating disorder [bulimic, is that right term, yung sakit?] making me puke every after drinking water also delays my period or have no period at all. And I also had this mild cough. And sometimes, i feel so dizzy. Someone help me! I need a doctor.

And now I feel like puking again. DAMN!!!